Art of Picking Up Women

The Reason Women Play Hard To Get…

Donald — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 17:40:03 +0000

All the world’s a dating game and all the men and women merely players. Men are taught to play hard to get in order to seem more attractive to women, while women, usually on the receiving end of the “pickup,” are conditioned to be a challenge, like a porcupine whose quills stand up on end when on the defensive.

Dating is a game and if it wasn’t, it wouldn’t be as much fun. If you’ve successfully dated every woman you approached, you might have one hell of an ego but in the grand scheme of things, you wouldn’t have any fun. As aggravating as it is to pace around your living room, wondering whether she’s interested in you or not, the challenge of it all makes dating more exciting.

So why is this woman never accepting a date or returning your calls? Well, she already knows but it’s up to you to find out.

THE PICKUP

Exhibit A
She’s at the same old bar with the same old friends, in her little miniskirt and halter-top. You see her from a distance and she’s constantly looking your way. You approach her with your sinister glare and killer smile, and you even use the approach that has never failed you before. But for some reason, this fish ain’t biting.

Verdict
Granted, she goes out dressed to kill with her guns pointing right in your direction, but that doesn’t mean she wants you to approach her. She wants men to look her way and she would be upset if they didn’t. But when men do gawk and approach, she doesn’t want to be made to feel like a piece of meat. She’s therefore going to be standoffish, unless you don’t treat her like a mission of yours.

THE CALL

Exhibit B
You’ve beaten the odds and gotten her number, but that’s only half the battle; you haven’t called and asked her out yet. You dial her digits and lo and behold, you get her answering machine. “Hi Sandy, it’s Mark. I met you on Saturday night at Alley Kats. Just wanted to say hi and see how you’re doing. You can reach me at 555-5959. Speak to you soon, Mark.”

Two days pass and she still hasn’t called you back. You call her again and happen to catch her answering the phone. She apologizes for not having called you earlier but she was busy, busy, busy.

Verdict
Why didn’t she call you when she had the chance? The same reason you would play hard to get with her. She’s playing her cards right, and doesn’t want to look too available. She wants to be pursued and wants you to think she’s calm and collected, even though her heart may skip a beat when the phone rings.

Remember that appeal and interest usually increase relative to the challenge involved. If she were available whenever you wanted, called you all the time, and slept with you after one night, you would lose interest quicker because the hunt is over. You have her in your back pocket, along with the home, work, cell, and fax numbers that she gave you. But if she keeps you guessing and doesn’t tell you what she’s doing Friday night after she declines your date, you’re left intrigued.

Exhibit C
It’s Wednesday night and you want to call her so that you can secure reservations at a trendy Moroccan restaurant, and impress her with your good taste in cuisine and atmosphere. She says she’s busy on Friday night, and when you ask her about Saturday, she replies that she’s taking her aunt to the airport. Is she busy for lunch? One day she has to take her cat to the vet and the other day she has to take her mother shopping.

Frustrated and fresh out of ideas (you were close to suggesting driving her and her cat to the vet but decided against it), you tell her to call you when she’s ready to do something (or at least consider it). She has your number — you gave it to her 3 times, area code and all — but still no call.

Verdict
If a woman has your number and has declined two of your invitations without mentioning the possibility of a future date, she’s not playing hard to get; she’s playing hard to never get. If she were interested, she would call you at some point or at least apologize for being so busy and give you a future possibility, like mentioning that next week is much better for her and that the two of you can go out then. If she’s busy all the time and makes no attempt to keep the window of possibility open, it’s clear she doesn’t want to waste either of your time. Move on, game over.

THE DATE

Exhibit D
On the other hand, if she does accept your invitation for a date and the two of you secure the time and place, then you’re still in the game, buddy. You take her to the Moroccan place you had in mind and everything is going great — the conversation, chemistry and couscous — you may just stand a chance with her. At the end of the night, you take her hand and lean over to kiss her once you arrive at the romantic waterfall down the street. She pulls away shyly and walks the other way towards the car.

Verdict
Why the sudden disinterest? She may not trust you right away. She has either been hurt in the past, or her friends have been hurt, or she has heard her male friends boasting about how they succeeded to ditch a woman after having sex with her. Her distrust and intuition cause her to play hard to get with you. She doesn’t want to get sucked into whatever game you may or may not be playing and she’s protecting herself from getting hurt.

Men don’t give women enough credit, and don’t realize that even if a woman has had only the best of romantic experiences, she has a natural instinct, a sixth sense if you will, that you can’t mess with.

So if she’s proving to be more of a challenge than you anticipated, then she may just be testing the waters with you.

THE RELATIONSHIP

Exhibit E
Everything with you and the woman of your dreams is going great but she’s still holding her guard with you. You want to go away for a weekend, but she’s still hesitant about those plans.

Verdict
Although men are less likely to commit to a relationship, when they do fall for a woman in particular, they are usually surer about it than their female counterparts. Men aren’t as likely to ask hypothetical questions such as “what if I meet someone at work?” and “what if she’s not Ms. Right?” Women, on the other hand, ask themselves too many questions in order to figure out whether you’re the man they have been looking for their whole life.

HOW DO YOU PLEA?

Playing hard to get is part of the dating game, not to mention the part that makes it fun. And you shouldn’t let her do all the playing — when you’re pursuing a woman, play the part of the challenge too. While she declines invitations and doesn’t return your calls, you should make it clear that you’re busy and have your own life as well. Once you show her that your life revolves around her (at least too early on), she will never want to be part of that world.

Both parties are armed with their rules and methods of playing the game, in the hopes of winning the ultimate prize. Once you know why women play hard to get, whether it’s in order to be pursued, be cautious, or because they’re simply not interested, at least you’ll have the upper hand in the game and you’ll know if and when to move on to the next player.

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Advise Women Give and Why You Shouldn’t Follow it

Donald — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 03:33:06 +0000

You want to attract women, so you should listen to women about how to do this. It sounds logical enough, but if you’re really interested in getting the woman you want, you should never listen to what women say about dating. Women only think they know what they want. The really intelligent ones know that they want things other than what they tell you they want, but most of them don’t even realize that their dream man is very different from the perfect boyfriend that every woman says she wants.

Women often tell men to treat the woman they’re interested in with respect and bring her gifts like flowers or fine chocolates. It’s classy, it’s romantic, and it doesn’t work in any dating arena. If you’re looking for women in nightclubs or other social venues, know that these ladies are going to be on-guard for predators. As a matter of course, they’ll put any man who approaches them through a battery of tests. The unsuccessful suitor either fails her tests or passes them at his own expense. The successful suitor, on the other hand, lets his lady know that he’s got enough quality to not need to pass her tests — he’s exempt. This is the answer that women of quality secretly want to hear. As for flowers and chocolates, don’t even consider them until the fourth or fifth date, and even then, find out what her preferences and allergies are before you make that kind of investment.

Another oft-spoken word of advice that women give to men is “Be yourself.” If you’ve been yourself around women and it hasn’t gotten you anywhere, then it’s obvious that this advice doesn’t work. Therefore, do not be yourself. Be better, bolder, and more ambitious than yourself. Become the man you truly want to be. No one, male or female, wants to be cowardly and shy. Change yourself. Do not let your own laziness doom you to a life of loneliness.

Why is it that women give such bad relationship advice to men? A lot of it stems from the fact that women’s brains work differently than men’s brains. It’s a proven scientific fact, but even the most well-intentioned lady doesn’t always appreciate that a man follows a different set of guidelines and conventions than a woman does. Her ideas are flawed because they proceed from the false assumption that she understands what’s going on in a man’s head. She doesn’t. She can’t. She’s never been a man and therefore has never thought like one.

Another reason that women give such bad relationship advice lies in the fact that most women don’t realize what they’re truly attracted to. The women who do know what they truly want in a man will never say what they truly want in a man. That’s because women are truly attracted to a man who is powerful and mysterious, who does the unexpected and maintains a cool composure, who knows who he is and what he wants. What women truly want is the challenge of taking this sort of bad boy and taming him into a gentleman. Like the heroines of Greek mythology, they are looking for a man who has the courage to hold his own against her, and she wants to be pleasantly surprised when she finally loses to him.

Women don’t say these things to a man because it’s the ultimate secret and the ultimate show of weakness. Most of them won’t even talk about it among themselves. How, then, can you expect women to share any real insight into the inner workings of their minds with men?

Getting women to like you…..

Donald — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 03:30:56 +0000

So you’re looking how to get girls to like you… you want to go from a Nerd to a Ladies Man? Then you’ll have to get ready for some hard work and get ready to learn some things, it’s going to be a steep learning curve. As steep as it is, if you make it through, the rewards are great. How to get girls to like you is an art, an art that could never be painted out in a single issue. With that said, I’m going to give you a general outline of some tips which will make you a better guy practically overnight. First off you need to maximize your life. Back when I was younger I was handed a major eye opener by an ex girl of mine. Sexual attraction is what we were talking about and she told me “girls like a good body on a guy just as much as guys like it on girls.” What a shocker, I’m not joking. I had previously taken my appearance for granted. I think it was due to the fact that the media tells us that women were not so much after sex as men are. Here’s some breaking news guys, women want sex just as bad as we do. If you want to know one of the most important rules of how to get girls to like you, it is to make the most of yourself and what you have. You may not look like Brad Pitt, but that does not stop you from trying to look your best with what you’ve got. I believe if we all made the most of what we had then it would send out the attractive vibe instantaneously without us doing much mental work. Just take care of the basic things. Go find yourself a hair stylist and get a haircut that suits you. Read up on some of the latest fashion and go out and buy some premium clothing from some nice stores instead of buying all you can handle at the discount stores. Upgrade your watch, try on a nice pair of shoes over your Nikes. And one of the most important changes you can make to yourself is working out. Work out as if your life depended on it. Build yourself a body fit for a champion. Be sure you look great in that t-short. You’ll have girls looking at you and wanting to tear your clothes off. You must realize that women want a real man… no more metrosexual days. Thank God! Forget plucking your eyebrows, skincare galore, or even worse… apologizing like there’s no tomorrow for everything. This is one of the secrets of how to get girls to like you. Metro’s get stepped on all day long like welcome mats. Alpha males don’t waste time with petty games, he won’t buckle down when problems come because he’s firm mentally. They are just as strong mentally as they are physically. Martial arts would be a good practice to get there mentally and physically. Girls don’t want to see their man get walked all over, pushed and shoved out of the way. Girls don’t want to overpower their man, despite what some would say is politically correct. Just stand firm on what you believe if an argument occurs. It may get hot in the heat of the moment, but she’ll respect you later for it. Women will be attracted to the alpha male type, and if you’ve developed it, they’ll notice. One of the most important skills you can learn on how to get girls to like you is to learn how to read body language. The conversation is dead between two stranger once the attempt at seduction has gone bad. Some will note that is due to the fact that the couple are incompatible, but I don’t believe that’s true. It’s always possible to create some sort of chemistry, even if they are someone you’ve never talked to in your life. A great way of opening things and making it easier for you is to read body language. If you are able to spot when a woman is interested in you, receptive towards you, then that should give you the green light to keep on pursing. Master body language and you’ll never be alone. It has to be the strongest tool in any man’s war chest. How to get girls to like you… it’s not as hard as it sounds. But there is so much more I can’t even begin to tell you all about it here. Hopefully you’ll take some of the ideas and thoughts that I’ve shared with you here and start to apply them in your own situation. Become the greatest man you can be physically, stick to the alpha male ways, and learn how to read body language. If you can just get better at any of those areas, you’ll be a much better magnet for girls that you were just a few moments prior. How to get girls… now you know!

How to pick up Women ANYWHERE!!!!

Donald — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 02:47:27 +0000

When you stop and think and think about it, you can meet girls almost anywhere. You just have to be strong enough to speak up and let the girl know there is some kind of attraction you have. Don’t be too aggressive; that won’t get you to where you want to be – especially in a first attempt. Think the place you both are at and then what might be perfect opening discussion.

Let’s take a look at some examples, if you are in a bar, you might start a conversation by asking a girl if she comes to the bar often. If there is a band playing, you might ask her if the entertainers are any good. If there are people dancing to some good music you can move to, you could ask for a dance.

Maybe you are traveling on a flight from LA to Chicago. A very attractive woman is sitting next to you. You might ant to ask her if she takes this flight frequently. This could take you to asking her if she lives in LA or Chicago. Typically, the discussion intensifies from there to what type of work she is in, etc. The great thing about meeting girls when you travel is that there is usually a good amount of time to engage in conversation. The not so good thing is there is also a very good chance you may never see this woman again.

Lastly, you can go to the internet to any number of dating sites and meet hundreds of girls. Some dating sites are fairly advanced and after filling out detailed information, you are “matched” with several choices of girls who share similar likes and dislikes. You converse with one or several of these girls, and if things go well, you make arrangements to meet up. Who knows where this could lead to… a long and prosperous relationship and even marriage. Now you know where to meet girls!

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How to Easily Pick Up Girls

Donald — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 02:22:13 +0000

Guys who have been single for quite some time now are surely looking for dates either they are planning of having a serious relationship or just clean fun. These kinds of guys who have not experienced dating for so long feel that they went back to the basics: a stage when persons are still new to the dating field. Meaning, they have not experienced dating or are still groping in the dark on how they should behave. Because some men are not fully aware of some of the dating “etiquettes,” some of the dates turn out to be a disaster. So, if you are one of the guys who are on the lookout for the perfect date, then be sure to read the helpful ways to pick up girls in this article. If all these are followed, there is no doubt that you can score the beauties you’ve been wanting all along.

To be successful in your date, here are the three important ways in order to attract girls of your desire. These tips do not require that you must first be good looking and drives flashy cars. Even the average Joes out there can enjoy the perks of dating the girl of their dreams. The very first way to pick up girls that you need to follow is to be a gentlemen. Girls definitely don’t go for arrogant guys. Girls want to pampered and treated like queens. They totally abhor men who think that they are the greatest and the best. Know your limitations. Also, do things that only a real man could do. And most importantly, ask permission from your date if you can do this or that. Doing all these stuffs would truly manifest that you are a real gentleman and ladies could appreciate this kind of action.

The second way to pick up girls that could really work is start showing your confidence. Girls are mostly attracted to men who are confident on their real own skin. A confident man transcends in his attitude and this mostly attracts them to girls. Women today do no are completely different. They look for men with confidence than with good looks. So sometimes you would wonder why a beautiful woman is dating an average looking guy. Don’t question it as women today don’t care about how good you look. Confidence and all the positive attitudes are the key to their heart.

Though good looks do not matter, it would still do you good if you have proper grooming and hygiene. Having a little concern over your hygiene does not make you a metro sexual. Proper grooming only shows that you are taking good care of yourself. Cutting your nails, hair and making sure that you smell good attracts women. Having clean looks can also improve your self-esteem as you are more confident on how you look.

All the ways to pick up girls that you have just read can quickly turn your zero dating nights upside down. Follow them if you want to improve your love life. This new knowledge are not enough as it also needs your action.

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Getting Your Ex Back!!!!

Donald — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 02:10:03 +0000

Almost every adult has experienced a break up sometime during their life, and most of the time they just learn how to move on.

But what if you’re not one of those people that likes to play the victim? You want your ex back and you’re willing to do a little work to make it happen. That’s a good and smart choice.

Fact is, around 90% of all break ups can be reversed…if you know the steps you need to take to win back your ex. We’ll talk about some of those in a second, but first I want to point out that you’ll find some amazing resources down at the bottom of this article. These are the best sites I’ve found at laying out a step-by-step, easy to follow gameplan for getting back together. You owe it to yourself to take a look.

Okay, now on to some tips…

The first step in learning how to get back together with your ex is to determine why exactly the breakup occurred. Even though you can’t go back into the past to change the reason the breakup occurred, you can learn from the mistake and try to grow from it.

The breakup may have occurred because of one specific event, or even from a behavior that your ex didn’t want to deal with anymore. No matter what the reason for the breakup was, you need to find out the specifics so you can learn how to deal with the situation later on. When you follow the plan outlined at the sites below, you will get your ex back. But this time you want to keep the relationship together, right? So that’s step one.

The next step is to make sure you don’t make yourself seem needy. Even though almost everyone feels like they need to express to their ex that they cannot live without them, there is no point in telling them that. Instead stay strong, let your ex see that you are okay by yourself, and show everyone around you that you have self confidence and you are happy with yourself. Seeming needy or desperate will only push your ex further away, so make sure to maintain your confidence to get him to crawl right back to you.

This is one of the main points you’ll learn when you visit the sites I tell you about below. In fact, you’ll learn exactly what to say and how to say it. This one little technique alone can plant the idea in your ex’s head that they made a mistake. It’s very powerful!

Trying to make your ex jealous is one of the worst things you can do if you want to get back with your ex, since all it is going to do is show him that you have moved on and that he should do the same. Instead, you want him to think that he was the best thing in your life, and that nobody compares to what he had to offer you. By boosting his confidence without seeming needy, he will soon realize the two of you were great together despite the small fight or differences. Also, avoid getting upset if he is seeing someone else, because you won’t be able to stop it no matter what you try.

Setting up a meeting to talk with your ex is the best way to sort out the problems the two of you are having as long as you’ve followed the lessons outlined in the sites below first.

If you go in unprepared, or do what most people do, not only will a get-together with your ex not result in you two getting back together, it will probably wind up making things worse.

Getting back with your ex isn’t rocket science, but you need to make sure you are behaving correctly to make him realize he is better off with you. Acting needy or childish will only push your ex further away, and that’s the opposite of what you want to do, right.

Just follow the steps and the plan as outlined on the sites below and you’ll be all set. Good luck!

Throughout this story I’ve been referring to a step-by-step gameplan anyone can follow to win back their ex. Here’s where you can find it: watch this video (it’s under 10 minutes) that explains the entire process. I bet this will turn out to be the smartest thing you do all day.

Next, this guide will help you understand what went wrong in your relationship to begin with. Good luck with everything. I hope this helps!

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Picking Up Women

Donald — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 01:47:49 +0000

Everyone, male or female, feels an important need to be consistent in the things they say, do and feel. If we’re flaky and liable to change at the drop of a hat what we believe or have promised, we know that people are likely to judge and mistrust us. This commonly felt sense of importance regarding the need to be consistent within ourselves can be exploited when attempting to seduce a woman. One seduction technique that makes use of this concept is called ‘The Power of Yes’.

Here’s a common scenario most men have experienced at some point or another in their lives. You find yourself talking to a girl, maybe you approached her and consciously started a conversion, or perhaps the chat began unplanned, naturally. Either way, you’re enjoying each other’s company. After a while, it dawns on you that you and the girl you’re talking to are going to have to go your separate ways pretty soon, which poses a slight dilemma: how can you make it so this isn’t the first and last time you two are together and instead arrange for it to progress into something further? The obvious route to take is to perform a ‘closer’.

A closer is when you make a conscious effort to get a girl’s number, swap both your numbers, arrange to meet up again soon, or otherwise cross that social “getting to know you” line. Thing is, you don’t want your closer to crash and burn, you want the girl to happily agree to whatever it is you suggest. So how can help ensure that happens? You use psychology, specifically, ‘The Power of Yes’ technique. The technique involves getting the girl you’re interacting with to give several positive ‘yes’ responses to your questions in quick succession. Doing so helps develop an internal sense of positivity in the female that carries over in her mind to when you perform the actual closer and tips the balance in the direction of agreement to your request or suggestion.

You can do this by using subtle and casual responses after she says things, like: “Really?” and “Do you?” Match your response to what she’s just said and ensure it takes the form of a question that you’re sure will prompt a ‘yes’ response from her. Getting between 3 and 6 of these positive responses is usually enough to allow the principle to work.

At the same time, avoid asking questions or saying things near the end of your conversation, just before you’re about to close, that could possibly evoke negative reactions or “no” responses from the female.

The reason this technique works so well is because of the natural human phenomenon mentioned at the start of this article – that people feel it’s important to be consistent and congruent in the things they say and the situation they’re in. After responding to you positively half a dozen times, a natural inclination is created in the female’s mind for saying ‘yes’ – she’s gotten used to it. When you finally suggest going for a bite to eat tomorrow or visiting that museum together you told her about, the most natural and consistent response in her mind is a responding “Yes!”…it just feels right.